We’ve all been there: your partner wants to have sex at the end of the day, but you’re just not in the mood. But what if that happens every night? Well, it’s common for a woman’s sex drive to ebb and flow, especially when there are so many factors that affect libido. If you’ve been experiencing a low sex drive and it hasn’t bothered you — and hasn’t had a negative impact on your relationship with your partner — then you have nothing to worry about, says OB-GYN Pari Ghodsi.
But if your decreased libido is mentally distressing or causing your relationship to suffer, it may be time to look into the cause of your low sex drive, officially referred to by medical professionals as hypoactive sexual desire disorder, to determine the root of the problem and work towards a solution.
The first step is identifying the cause of the problem, which can be tricky. “The reality is, for most women, low sexual desire is complex,” says Dr. Megan Fleming, clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist. There are many causes of a decreased libido, including your hormone levels, the medications you’re taking, your relationship with alcohol, your stress level and the state of your relationship with your partner.
Here’s what you can do to address these problems and get your sex life —and your relationship — back on track.